I'm still trying to decide if I really enjoyed myself at my reunion this weekend, or merely tolerated it.
I'm kind of on the fence right now.
I enjoyed seeing some old friends that I haven't seen for over ten years. (Shout out to the Geeks!)
I also enjoyed talking to some people that were in different *ahem* social circles back in the day.
Are cliques REALLY necessary? Include some, but not others. What's the deal?
Were we all so internally insecure that we just naturally gravitated to the people we knew in grade school and stuck to them like glue once we arrived in the big leagues? Or was it something else that prevented us from reaching out and meeting new people?
I went to a Catholic high school, after eight years at a Catholic grade school. Out of the forty-something kids that I saw everyday from first through eighth grade, only about 10 of us went on to the Catholic high school. Once we arrived as freshmen, a strange thing happened.
I explained it to my husband like this:
Feeder school A stuck together.
Feeder School B stuck together
Feeder School C stuck together
The rest of us, who came from smaller feeder schools, were left to fend for ourselves. If we joined a sports team, student government, or were incredibly outgoing in the first place, we found ourselves communing with the "popular" kids from the top three feeder schools.
If we didn't fall into one of those categories, we were screwed.
I was screwed.
I joined clubs, went to games and dances, and had a group of people that I ate with in the cafe.
But I was still invisible to the larger population.
Even to those who had known me since first grade, I disappeared. Especially those who found their niche among the "in" crowd.
Now while I wasn't part of the upper social circle, I certainly used my wallflower skills to the best of my ability. I was an excellent people watcher. I knew who dated whom, where they came from, what they were involved in. I can even tell you things today that these people did 20 years ago. And I know what a lot of them are doing now.
That came in handy on Saturday night. Those few people I had the chance to speak to, well, they were surprised that I remembered (or KNEW!) the things about them that I did.
"How did you know that?"
Easy, I was on the outside looking in.
You want to know what's really sad? I heard one common refrain Saturday night.
" Coming here, I remember now why I hated high school."
To those who made high school fun for me...thanks. Ya'll know who you are.